I apologize for the lag between posts. I will continue to write about travel, but I felt it was necessary to add some personal flair and explain some things.
I haven’t been writing lately for several reasons. One is that I have been dedicating most of my free time to a big project that I’m working on that I can’t wait to share. Another is that I’ve been making some major life changes this year that have affected my ability to keep up with my weekly posting schedule.
I decided before the year started that I want to re-design my life. That means taking control and really thinking about where I want my life to lead.
In a career sense, I was tired of doing the same things and expecting different results and just feeling stuck all around. I was inspired to make some big changes and stop letting life just happen after reading this self-help book, embarrassingly enough, called “Awaken the Giant Within” by Tony Robbins.
So far this year I have left my old job and taken on several marketing jobs, which allow me to make more money and work from anywhere. Not to mention, I am setting my own schedule, which is challenging but so liberating. Secondly, I decided to bite the bullet and aggressively move forward with a big project that has slowly been in the works for a few years now.
The toughest decision I had to make this year so far was to leave my relationship that was no longer serving me. I started this blog while I was in this relationship and he was such a big part of it that it felt painful to write during the time before and after the breakup. He’s a great person and did not do anything wrong. In fact, he did a lot for me and I learned so much from him and our relationship. Our differences just got the best of us and we were both not happy in the relationship anymore. For one thing, he was a lot older than me and very set in his ways and there just wasn’t a role I could fill in his life. I still love him and making the decision to leave was one of the hardest decisions I’ve had to make, but I knew it was over and time to move on. Sometimes you have to let go of things that you love to move forward in life.
Anyways, exciting things are happening this year. I am so blessed that I’m going to be working with my badass best friend on this new project who lives in Houston, so I will be splitting my time between New York and Houston. I’m very excited about this because that means spending more time with my family and close childhood friends. Also, getting out of New York City sometimes is necessary for my mental health. It can be pretty overwhelming at times, but the opportunities (especially in the realm I’m working on) are endless and the energy there keeps me inspired.
What I’ve really learned so far this year is that you don’t have to live life the way everyone tells you to. You need to trust your own instincts. Picture the life you want and map out a plan to get there. Don’t ever settle and feel like ‘I guess this is it for me’. You can literally design your life the way that you want it.
Step one is to figure out what’s holding you back from having the life of your dreams and you have to let go of it (even if it’s painful). Your emotions are the biggest guiding points in this. If you’re unhappy that means you need to make a change. Listen to what your emotions are telling you. Sometimes it seems overwhelming to get to where you want to be in life but just keep putting one foot in front of the other.
Change can be frightening at times, but it’s necessary to move forward. Be clear about what your goals are and why you want to achieve them. Tony says, “The only reason we really pursue goals is to cause ourselves to expand and grow. Achieving goals by themselves will never make us happy in the long term; it’s who you become, as you overcome the obstacles necessary to achieve your goals, that can give you the deepest and most long-lasting sense of fulfillment.” So maybe the key question you and I need to ask is, “What kind of person will I have to become in order to achieve all that I want?”